I’m going to keep this one short and sweet. I’m in that mood where I feel like your straight-talking lady-cousin who sees you need a little shake-up.
Want to burn yourself out? Have no money.
Darling, you cannot be productive, nor strategic, nor at your best professionally if you are constantly stressed about being able to pay your rent. There’s no freelance rulebook out there that says you have to leap and then just work your butt off while the savings disappear, and then keep working harder and suffer until something gives in order to “make it”.
This isn’t a one and done scenario. You need money. You have not failed if your first venture into full time freelancing doesn’t pan out. Going back to waiting tables or teaching yoga or whatever it takes is 100% completely unutterably FINE and no you won’t stay there because you’ll hate it after a while. But you’ll be giving yourself the gift of meeting your financial needs which in turn gives you the mental space to build your freelance gig in a non-desperate way.
You need money. And to hell with anyone that judges your decisions. The road to self-sufficience is a long one and there are lots of detours. This is 100% completely unutterably FINE and it’s no one else’s business how you make your dreams come true.
You need money. And you owe it to yourself to make sure your fiscal needs are met. And that’s it. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. You and I both know who will be laughing in the long run. And I believe in you.
Want to burn yourself out even more? Work with people you don’t like serving.
When you’re in the early stages and money is an issue, it’s so easy to say yes to every client that comes along because…money. And experience. We all need to hone our craft a bit until we feel legit.
But love, you’ll grow to hate your freelancing gig quite rapidly if you work with people you don’t like serving. Even one or two mis-matched clients can make work seem like some kind of seventh layer of hell.
For the love of all things holy, listen to your gut and don’t take on people who you get “the vibes” about.
Don’t work with people who seem weird online.
Don’t work with people who question your rates.
Don’t work with people who are unreliable communicators.
Your hours and energy are finite. For every mis-matched client you take on, you take away a space that could’ve been filled with one of Your People.